How Happy People Stay Happy

How Happy People Stay Happy

How Happy People Stay Happy

Sometimes happy people get a bad rap.  They’re considered the eternal optimists, and aren’t able to see the world for how it really is, and are therefore not essentially capable of seeing or thinking realistically.  I think we can agree that most of that thinking is rubbish considering that happiness is for the most part, a choice.  During the holidays, many people go through the Holiday Blues for several reasons.  But there may be a few things you can do and practice to try and keep calm and happy.

Having one bad day doesn’t mean all is lost.  We’re human, right?  Humans are complicated and life is complicated.  There’s going to be many things along the way that come up and threaten our happiness.  If you’re not feeling it one day, remember that tomorrow is a new day and full of possibilities, and that means you get to try again.

Look for the silver lining.  There’s a saying that goes, “expect the unexpected” and for some, last week proved that.  What’s important to remember is that you don’t control certain outcomes, and there is good in every situation no matter how dark. If things feel out of control, take a deep breath and try to look for the good, and if that’s just too hard, try to look for the not so bad.

Brush it off.  Holding on to things for extended lengths of time is counterproductive to happiness.  Sure, everyone needs time to reflect and absorb certain things that can hamper our joy, but don’t stay in that place too long.  If you can’t change it, then you need to let it go.

Set your boundaries.  It’s hard for people to understand how essential this idea is to being happy.  People are scared to set boundaries for many reasons.  But learning to say what’s ok for you and your life, and what’s not ok is totally healthy.

Just because you don’t take everything on, doesn’t mean you don’t acknowledge it.  Everyone has that one friend or family member that can’t wait to share the bad news.  There’s a lot of negative in the world and you can go down that road of fear, but it won’t make you happy.  Yes, it may be reality but dwelling in the negative reality of certain things is going to beat you down.  And yes, negative attracts negative.  So you decide what you want in your life.  It may be best to keep those family members and friends at bay.  You know that saying, “Love them from a distance?” -do that.

 

Wishing you the happiest of Holiday Seasons!

 

Love & Hugs

Bianca

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